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Self-care is selfish

 And here’s why that’s totally okay!   Photo by Nicola Fioravanti on Unsplash Someone asked on Reddit: When does focusing on yourself turn into being self-centered? The question stuck with me for a while. I guess, especially because I had thought on and off about why it is often so hard to be nice to ourselves? The Reddit question included a bit of a back story about divorce, not knowing what one was all about after marriage, and basically having difficulties answering basic questions like “What do you do for fun?”. So the Redditor started a journey

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freedomxx November 17, 2021 No Comments

Be who you want to be

Stop relying on personality tests and start shaping your identity   Myers-Briggs, 16personalities, Big Five, the odd Buzzfeed “Which Disney character are you?” test… A lot of us — me definitely included — have at some point tried to figure out who we are. Either for ourselves, for someone else, or for a job. Personality tests are a fun way to engage with yourself and then get a nicely written result about your personality type. You might say: Oh yeah, sounds like me. And why wouldn’t it? You just answered a bunch of questions that led to that result. When

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freedomxx September 28, 2021 No Comments

A little closer to being at peace with yourself by living now

“If you are depressed you are living in the past if you are anxious you are living in the future, if you are at peace, you are living in the present.” — Lao Tzu For the last few weeks, our focus was on learning how to appreciate our now.Trying to live now compared to somewhere in the past or in an uncertain future is a task to tackle every day. A lot of us get stuck on the idea of being happy when we arrive at a specific goal. While we dream of being there

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freedomxx September 14, 2021 No Comments

A little closer to learning to let go: For a happier today

Most of our troubles stem from attachment to things that we mistakenly see as permanent. — Dalai Lama Photo by Al Soot on Unsplash Last week, we explored how gratitude can help us to appreciate our now compared to spending too much time thinking about the past or dreaming of the future. Another way to work towards becoming better at living now is to let go of our attachments. That means to let go of any expectation for a specific outcome. Typically, we struggle with that as we do have certain ideas about how things should go or how we want someone

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freedomxx August 30, 2021 No Comments

Are you living your own life?

Taking control and living life on your terms. Mammatus Clouds — Özgür Kusakoglu Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about the impact of other people’s expectations on my life. How can I be sure what I do isn’t controlled by my inherent need for harmony compared to what I really want? I guess it’s always going to be something to question and re-adjust. Awareness is probably a good start. “Am I living my own life?” is a good question to ask ourselves. A passage in Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga’s book “The Courage to be

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freedomxx August 17, 2021 No Comments

Feel awkward… then still do it!

Telling yourself positive affirmations is pretty weird and extremely effective Photo by Magdalena Smolnicka on Unsplash ************************************************************* Standing in front of the mirror: Is anyone at home?•No.•Good.•Okay, let’s try one.•“I show up and let myself being seen.”•Giggles.•Try one more!•“I am good enough!”•Smiling. ************************************************************* Have you ever tried affirmations? These positive sentences you are supposed to tell yourself? Are you suspicious they are simply another weird self-help gimmick!? Or, similar to me, you just have a hard time taking yourself seriously while saying good stuff about yourself? And then, how often do I catch myself thinking:“That was stupid.” • “I

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freedomxx August 10, 2021 No Comments

How to Set Goals the Smart Way

“We don’t want your distance from the goal crush you” Jordan Peterson Obviously people have difficulty to set goals and execute them. We know you can’t arrive a place if you don’t start moving towards a direction. Well executed goal setting is fulfilling and will increase your confidence, make you achieve future goals easier. The more you achieve, the more you will be likely to achieve. But why it doesn’t work for most people? A few reasons why goal setting is not working for you: You are not defining it in detail Too hard or

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freedomxx April 14, 2020 No Comments

5 Ways to Avoid Misery & Design The Future Life You Desire

You want to achieve great things, be in control of your life and design future. You want to become what you dream to become. But time passes by and you feel like you can’t progress as you want to. Life happens to you and you can not direct it to the point you want. Days pass one by one and you lose your confidence. The only way to design and control your future is through habits, practices and system. The structure that will be in place no matter what your mood is. You will act

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freedomxx January 20, 2018 No Comments