Category: Mental Strength

Get closer to “YES!” – How to break up with your sunk cost fallacy bias

We all know Jessica, who – despite it being 1000% clear that she should break up with her partner – is still holding on to the idea that the relationship might turn to the better. She invested 2 years of her life to get close to that partner – and continues to invest time, emotional and physical energy instead of letting go.  The same happens with Tom and his financial investments into the company of his friend. He’s been helping out hoping for his friend’s to succeed. However, it actually became clear after 3 months

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Procrastination is Helpful

A few days ago, while chatting with a contractor, that word came into conversation: Productivity.   He was telling me his new methods and apps to suck much more out of time and how to kill procrastination. Expecting I would clap and join the ‘hustle’ push.   Hard to blame him as I was in a similar mindset a few years ago: bullet points, pomodoro, this many minute cycles and endless apps to keep my shit together.  That all changed, here is my take.   Procrastination is helpful.  Downtime is helpful. How so?    Productivity

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A Kick In the Behind for Your Confirmation Bias

Hey there! How’s your day been so far? Today, I’d like to look at our natural bias to seek information that affirm and substantiate our beliefs and assumptions: the lovely confirmation bias.  At first sight, this bias might seem nice, warm and cuddly. It deceives us with the idea of what we know is true. It pretends to help us to understand what should be expected in certain situations or from certain people. Our brains love to feel safe like that because it means there is no (dangerous) surprises. However, this bias keeps us from

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It’s Time to Let Go of Your Imposter Syndrome

Let’s talk about my friend Peter – a lovely guy, who is very intelligent and personable. Someone who has the ability to walk into a room of strangers, where he radiates his charm and wits and comes out with a bunch of new friends.  You might think Peter is a very confident guy. But he isn’t. Peter and I also used to work together and he was often, if not constantly doubting himself: “What if Tina thinks I am dumb?”; “Why did Martin say he needs to think about it?”; “The Directors are all in

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Why I Chose Radical Honesty

What if not being fully honest creates most of your problems? A few months ago I was talking to a contracter who works with me regularly. He is generally doing avarage work while thinking he is great. I realised, me not willing to share this with him keeps him from progress. Not just that, it keeps creating problems for my work which spreads to other areas.  This happens all the time. Not just in work but in relationships, investing, count it on… It is also true for my inner talk, there is always a tendency

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How to Set Goals the Smart Way

“We don’t want your distance from the goal crush you” Jordan Peterson Obviously people have difficulty to set goals and execute them. We know you can’t arrive a place if you don’t start moving towards a direction. Well executed goal setting is fulfilling and will increase your confidence, make you achieve future goals easier. The more you achieve, the more you will be likely to achieve. But why it doesn’t work for most people? A few reasons why goal setting is not working for you: You are not defining it in detail Too hard or

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5 Ways to Avoid Misery & Design The Future Life You Desire

You want to achieve great things, be in control of your life and design future. You want to become what you dream to become. But time passes by and you feel like you can’t progress as you want to. Life happens to you and you can not direct it to the point you want. Days pass one by one and you lose your confidence. The only way to design and control your future is through habits, practices and system. The structure that will be in place no matter what your mood is. You will act

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